Early morning shower revelation, I was thinking about how we were told yesterday that the other bidders on the house we are interested in are a family with a special needs child, but they can't afford to up their bid to beat ours because they need money for a ramp (true story, or at least I really was told this by the estate agent, to what ends I don't know, I think he was just telling me the truth though).
So that is sad and if we win and our bid beats theirs we get the house, and I feel guilty. But the truth is it doesn't matter if I feel bad about it. It doesn't matter if I decide to forgo the property to let them win because I feel bad. That would be a 'good' thing to do but it still doesn't make me a better person.
If the only reason I do anything good is because I feel guilty, or if I don't even do a good thing and just feel the guilt, I am not a better person than i was yesterday, i am still exactly the same person.
If I want to be a better person, I have to change, and to me the answer to that is to keep expanding my knowledge and taking in other people's perspectives, and develop a true empathy for their point of view. Actually see things from another perspective. If I increase my awareness then I will naturally want to do good things because I actually feel like it.
So guilt doesn't make you a better person, feeling bad about something and doing nothing but secretly wishing you did, doesn't either. I am going to actually work on being a better person and doing better things because I want to. That is the real change we need to be. Be the change we want to see in others.
So that is sad and if we win and our bid beats theirs we get the house, and I feel guilty. But the truth is it doesn't matter if I feel bad about it. It doesn't matter if I decide to forgo the property to let them win because I feel bad. That would be a 'good' thing to do but it still doesn't make me a better person.
If the only reason I do anything good is because I feel guilty, or if I don't even do a good thing and just feel the guilt, I am not a better person than i was yesterday, i am still exactly the same person.
If I want to be a better person, I have to change, and to me the answer to that is to keep expanding my knowledge and taking in other people's perspectives, and develop a true empathy for their point of view. Actually see things from another perspective. If I increase my awareness then I will naturally want to do good things because I actually feel like it.
So guilt doesn't make you a better person, feeling bad about something and doing nothing but secretly wishing you did, doesn't either. I am going to actually work on being a better person and doing better things because I want to. That is the real change we need to be. Be the change we want to see in others.
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